a modder called Cpecific has make a mod that helps you to keep track of which lord traits you already got and how close to the trait cap you are
the trait cap itself seems to be 30-35 traits per lord
all credit to Cpecific for the work I am merely sharing it
It's much easier and more fun to get engrossed in lore that takes itself seriously and tries to make sense within its own frame of reference.
the reason I prefer LOTR over warhammer fantasy and 40k
I am dutch so if you like to have a talk in dutch shoot me a PM